Discover everything you should know about the Enneagram 9 personality type, also known as The Peacemaker or The Mediator by reading this blog!
What Does It Mean To Be An Enneagram 9?
Being an enneagram 9 means that your core desire is to have peace and harmony around you at all times. This is because you were raised to believe that any form of conflict would lead to your abandonment. So now, you are easygoing and try to ignore your own needs or desires to avoid rocking the boat. you’ll go along with the crowd and make sure everyone gets what they need first.
If you are an enneagram nine, you are known as The Peacemaker. You are easygoing, friendly, and independent. As a 9, your core desire is harmony because, in childhood, you were taught to believe that any form of conflict would lead to your abandonment.
Enneagram 9 Description
The enneagram type nine is known as The Peacemaker. The 9 is characterized by their friendly, easygoing, and independent nature. If you are a 9, your core desire is harmony because, in childhood, you felt that any form of conflict would lead to your abandonment. As an adult, you try to be as easy as possible and go along with the masses to feel safe.
Traits of an Enneagram 9
With their core desire for harmony and inner peace, the Enneagram 9 is the most easygoing person you’ll meet. They will go in whatever direction their friends and family want to go with a positive attitude.
The Enneagram 9 is also capable of being highly independent. Because they want to make sure they don’t “rock the boat,” the 9 will happily spend time alone to maintain their own peace and avoid bothering others.
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Since 9s were raised to repress their needs and desires, they can struggle to know who they are and what they want. So they will often seek a social group, partner, or system that they can merge with to avoid feeling lost without direction or a sense of self.
Overall, these are the most pleasant souls you could meet. These daydreamers may seem a bit spacey at times but they always bring positive vibes, an optimistic attitude, and listening ears
Your wings also play a huge factor in your behavior because your wings determine your behavior. Read our blog on the 9’s wings, click here.
Enneagram 9 In Stress
A stressed enneagram 9 is numbing and stubborn. Taking on the 6’s negative traits, the 9 is trying to maintain harmony and becomes worried, anxious, and mistrusting. The type 9 in stress numbs out and goes silent. Appearing to be lost somewhere in their thoughts and when they do talk, explode.
Each enneagram type has specific signs that they are under stress! They take on the negative traits of a different number in stress.
The easygoing and friendly type 9 becomes worried, anxious, mistrusting, numbing, and silent at their worst.
9s, at their worst, feel like they can’t maintain harmony, so they start to become anxious, controlling, and numbing at the same time. Oftentimes, a 9 will be completely silent and avoidant in stress until one day, they explode.
The 9 takes on the unhealthy traits of the 6 at their worst by being controlling about organization and worrying. A 9 in stress finds it very hard to turn off their brain and they can’t help but overthink issues.
Sloth is the Enneagram 9’s deadly sin and you can see this in stress. Because they are trying so hard to just maintain harmony, they find it harder to push themselves and instead, they will overindulge in food, comfort, and social media.
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Enneagram 9 In Growth
The Enneagram 9 in growth incorporates ambition, drive, and desire into their being. They take on the healthy traits of the Enneagram 3 by addressing their desires, owning their needs, and setting goals that makes them excited to get out of bed in the morning.
Each enneagram type has specific signs that they are in a healthy state of growth! They take on the positive traits of a different number in growth.
When the enneagram 9 is at their best, they are driven, ambitious, and hard-working. They take on the healthy traits of the 3 by setting goals that they are excited about and working towards them.
The 9 in growth accepts their needs and prioritizes their desires before others’ needs and desires. They speak the truth, verbalize their thoughts, and set healthy boundaries.
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Enneagram 9 Common Mistypes
Some of the Enneagram types are very similar to one another. This is why it’s important to take your time and learn about each type before you type yourself!
9s commonly mistype as 5s because the 9 sees themselves as rational and balanced. While they can be like this, their core nature is more easygoing and friendly than the 5. The 5 wants to be rational at all times to the point of being heartless. 9s have empathy whereas the 5 lacks empathy.
9s can also see themselves as 4s. Both are highly creative however, the 4 has a strong sense of identity and the 9 struggles to create a sense of identity.
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Enneagram 9 Subtypes
In the enneagram, there are three variations of each type called Instinctual Subtypes.
These 3 subtypes are determined by the 3 major survival instincts we operate on.
The SX Enneagram 9 (Sexual 9)
The SX 9 seeks to find a sense of self-identity by merging with another person. They find harmony through connection and feel deeply unsettled when they cannot find someone to merge with. Solitude makes them feel incomplete so they seek out a one-on-one connection/intimate relationship to avoid having to identify their own needs and desires.
They will instead be in a relationship to merge their own needs and desires with their partner’s. In the positive sense, the SX 9 is highly fulfilled by simply being able to connect with someone.
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The SP Enneagram 9 (Self-Preserving 9)
SP 9s appear most like their Sloth tendencies. They seek physical comfort through food at home and numbing behaviors to feel a sense of harmony. The SP 9 can be so focused on maintaining harmony in their physical space that they ignore essential tasks, needs, or desires and replaces them with nonessential tasks and needs. These are the kind of people who enjoy attaining knickknacks and do unnecessary tasks in their household to distract from demanding responsibilities
The SO Enneagram 9 (Social 9)
The SO 9 is said to, arguably, be almost as hard-working as the Enneagram 3. SO 9s find harmony through being part of the group. They seek to be a part of a group and prioritize the group’s needs and desires before their own. The SO9 is hard-working, fun-loving, sociable, and motivated. The biggest struggle for the so 9 is that they feel no sense of self-identity outside of the group.
What An Enneagram 9 Needs To Hear
Dear Enneagram 9s, we are sorry that we taught you to believe that your needs and desires didn’t matter. You are wanted for who you are, even if that means rocking the boat. Honor your needs and chase your desires.
Enneagram 9 Romantic Compatibility
The Enneagram 9 will get along the most with enneagram 3s, 4s, and 5s. 3s help the 9 be driven. 4s can be easygoing and they can enjoy each other’s company. And 5s are very independent like the 9.
The Enneagram nine will be drawn towards other Enneagram types that allow them to chill and help them pursue their own desires.
The 9 can enjoy being with a driven type 3, who is their growth number. 3s are so goa driven that they can inspire the 9 to chase their own goals. The 9 can also help the 3 remember to relax and rest.
9s can also enjoy the company of 4s. 4s are very individualistic and by being around someone with such strong self-identity, the 9 can build their own self-identity. Both these types are also both adventurous, carefree, and creative.
And finally, the 9 can end up with the rational and independent 5. 9s can enjoy the 5s simplicity and find it easy to prioritize their own needs for themselves because the 5 takes care of their own needs.
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Best Careers For An Enneagram 9
Because Enneagram 9’s core desire is harmony, the type 9 can do well in careers that allow them to be hyper-focused on a task and do it to the best of their abilities. A career that allows the 9 to be creative and dreamy can serve them as well.
Potentially fulfilling careers for the 9 would be…
- Service Industry Jobs
- Professional Dancer
- Graphic Designer
- Building Jobs
The Enneagram 9 do best using their creative, focused, and independent nature in a career. They make great artists, therapists, freelancers, and service industry workers. A job where they are using their ability to create obsessively serves them well.
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