In need of some self care, enneagram 9? Read this blog for our guide to self care for the enneagram type 9 so you can find your zen again!
Enneagram 9 Overview
The enneagram type nine is called The Peacemaker. Your core desire is to have inner peace and harmony around you.
Common traits of a 9 are…
- Easygoing
- Accepting
- Creative
- Independent
- Optimistic
- Supportive
- Friendly
As a 9, your core desire comes from the fear of “if there is conflict, then I will be abandoned and alone.” Arguing with people and asserting your needs doesn’t come naturally to you.
A Stressed Enneagram 9…
When the enneagram 9 is in stress, they take on the negative traits of The Loyalist. The normally easygoing and friendly type 9 becomes stubborn and frustrated. They become hyper-critical of themselves and others, picking what seems to be stupid fights possibly about how the dishes were put away or even just how someone breathed.
Another unknown sign of a 9 in stress can be over-achieving and over-working, taking on the unhealthy aspects of the Enneagram 3!
What An Enneagram 9 Needs For Self Care.
So what do enneagram 9s need when it comes to self care?
First, a 9 needs to fulfill their core desire of harmony by doing things that make them feel peaceful. This could be spending time in nature, meditating, or creating a morning ritual.
But the enneagram 9 also needs to embrace both their wings for their self care too. Self care for the enneagram 9s 1 wing means making space for organization and finding challenge/leadership for their 8 wing.
And to complete their self care practice, an enneagram 9 needs to embrace the healthy traits of their growth numbers.
Finding time to connect with people (, embracing the enneagram 6,) and pursuing goals (taking on the enneagram 3) is extremely important for the enneagram 9s self care.
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Self Care For Enneagram 9s
So without further ado, here’s our enneagram 9 self care guide!
1. Nature + Fresh Air
Never underestimate the power of fresh air to clear your head! Type 9s desire harmony, get outside and hike, bike, or lay in a hammock to get into the silence of nature to find a healthy source of peace.
2. Make Small Decisions
Enneagram 9s are taught to believe that they don’t deserve to have their needs or desires met. For your self care, enneagram 9s, make small decisions every day to affirm that you create your reality.
This could be deciding what you eat for dinner, what you wear, and what movie you and your partner watc. Bring your awareness to the decisions you make and tap into what you want.
3. Journal Your Emotions
Every enneagram type can use more emotional awareness. Type 9s, practice noticing what you are feeling by journaling your emotions on a daily or weekly basis. As a 9 myself, I know this can feel like a messy process that can make you feel chaotic but trust me, emotional awareness pays off in the long run and this will provide you with more internal harmony.
4. Self Assertion
Practice healthy self assertion asserting yourself with small requests. This can be asking someone to bring you something or expressing an opinion. Keep in mind that self assertion can also be applied to yourself, keeping promises you made to yourself, staying true to your values, etc.
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5. Healthy Cooking
When an enneagram 9 is at their worst, they embrace their deadly sin of sloth and take in unhealthy eating habits. A simple self care practice for enneagram 9s is cooking a healthy homemade meal for themselves.
6. Goal Setting
9s, don’t underestimate how good you’ll feel when you embrace your enneagram 3 growth! Set goals and see how much more vibrant you become! It’s important that you set aligned goals as well so what do you want? What do you value? Who do you want to see yourself become?
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7. Morning + Evening Rituals
The most important thing I did for myself as an enneagram 9 in my self care practice is sticking to a morning and/or evening ritual. It maintains my desire of peace, gives me stability, and starts/ends my day right.
As a 9, I also like to mix it up. So here are some of my favorite rituals I’ve created.
- Make coffee, do a tarot pull, journal, then post for work.
- Write a poem for an hour, make coffee/tea, and get dressed
- Meditate to my favorite playlist, read for self growth, work on something for long term income
8. Time Management/To-Do Lists
Something I frankly suck at as an enneagram 9 is planning (barf). but I also know it’s valuable for me. For your self care as an enneagram 9, either use a planner to manage your schedule or make a to-do list of tasks that must get done every day, (hey, your self care is a must, so include it on there.)
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9. Connection
It’s important for you to also feel a sense of belonging. Make time to hang out with a friend, grab a cup of coffee, go for a walk, and be willing to share your anger or frustrations with them. Don’t feel like you can share that with them? What are you afraid of? And are they really your friend? Remember 9, you deserve the best from others, don’t de-value yourself.
10. Small Adventures
Plan small adventures into your life. Something that challenges you physically and mentally and brings you joy.
11. Meditation
Meditation can be intimidating but there is no reason to be. It’s the best thing we can do for ourselves! When we sit in silence, we allow any deep rooted problems, emotions, thoughts, and more to come out of hiding to be healed.
12. Dream Day Journaling
9s, what would your dream day look like? When would you get up? What are you having for breakfast? Who are you with? What would you do? How do you feel on this dream day? Write this dream day down.
This exercise helps 9s become aware of what we really need to be happy and what we are shooting for. While you’re writing, notice if you really want what you are writing down. Is there something you are avoiding writing because you believe it’s “unattainable”? Dream big but dream real!
13. Challenge
Start finding daily ways to challenge yourself, do 100 push-ups, go for a run, do a hard workout, learn a handstand, etc, and be mindful of how you avoid discomfort as you do it. Ask yourself, “Am I backing off because I am hurting myself, or am I just uncomfortable?”
Maintain connection to the body by finding a form of exercise that you love such as yoga, stretching, running, a 30-day workout challenge.
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14. Painting
Creativity is a huge part of self care! Create a painting to represent how you are feeling. What are you feeling right now? How can you express what you are feeling using color and paintbrushes?
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15. Anger Release
As they are apart of the Anger Triad, 9s struggle a lot with repressed anger. So any form of anger release is incredibly beneficial for enneagram 9s self care.
Enneagram 9 Self Care Products
Now that you have plenty of self care practices you can utilize, here are some self care products you should have as an enneagram 9!
A Hoodie
Feeling inharmonious, type 9? A new hoodie certainly won’t hurt. Get yourself a new hoodie as a form of self care. Wear it when you’re feeling down and let yourself feel comforted. Check out these 3 hoodies we offer.
Enneagram 9 Candle
A candle is a great self care gift as an enneagram 9. Get yourself this enneagram 9 candle.
Best Self Journal
Every type 9 should try this journal at least once! I’m the type of 9 who loves creating new routines, the Best Self Journal helps you do just that. It’s a 3 month journal that helps you set goals, create routines, and stay accountable every day, week, and month! My favorite part is that every day has a new, inspiring quote. Best Self has other workbooks and card decks that are great gifts for the enneagram 9 too!
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Nibble Chocolate
Type 9s are a huge fan of cozy drinks. I love having Nibble Chocolate for my morning and evening rituals as a form of self care. Nibble is THE BEST chocolate for making cozy drinks at home! Nibble Chocolate is a small artisan chocolate company based out of my home town and all of their chocolate is pure with no soy or syrups.
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Sodalite Crystal
Crystals are my great centering tools to have for your self care practice. Sodalite is especially beneficial for enneagram 9s. This crystal promotes honesty and openness. it inspires intuition, clarity, and creativity, and is a wonderful aid for meditation. It brings an understanding of difficult situations and encourages sound decision-making. Perfect for 9s who have trouble asserting their desires!
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Enneagram 9, Peacemaker Journal
Looking for a new journal for your morning ritual, mindfulness practice, or self discovery journey? Get this Enneagram 9, Peacemaker blank journal that matches the type 9s vibe! This journal is available as a hardcover and paperback.
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Book For Enneagram 9 Self Care
Read You Are A Badass by Jen Sincero. In You Are A Badass, Jen Sincero brings humor and with to the topic of “self care.” This book is great for enneagram 9s because it teaches them to step into their value, own their desires, and more.
Song For Enneagram 9 Self Care
Listen to I Won’t Back Down by Tom Petty for your self care. Let this song become the soundtrack to your life. Stand your ground, type 9, don’t back down from what you want.
Reminder For Enneagram 9s
Type 9s, remember that it is your right as a human being to express yourself and live aligned with your desires.
Screenshot this reminder and make it your wallpaper to embody your health as a 9!
Did we miss anything? Comment below, tell us how you practice self care!
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