In need of some self care, enneagram 4? Read this blog for our guide to self care for the enneagram type 4 so you can find your zen again!
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Enneagram 4 Overview
The enneagram type four is called The Individualist. Your core desire is to be unique, remembered, and understood.
Common traits of a 4 are…
- Possibly Melancholy
- And Whimsical
As a 4, your core desire comes from the fear that if you aren’t unique, people will forget about you. Going with the masses and hiding your emotions don’t come naturally to you.
A Stressed Enneagram 4…
In stress, the enneagram 4 takes on the negative traits of the enneagram 2, The Helper. The normally authentic and creative type 4 becomes selfless and responsible. Instead of embracing their individuality and using it to serve the world, the type 4 in stress forgoes the things that make them unique and focuses on helping others.
Another unknown sign of a 4 in stress can be perfectionism and emotional disconnect, taking on the unhealthy aspects of the Enneagram 1!
What An Enneagram 4 Needs For Self Care.
So what do enneagram 4s need when it comes to self care?
First, a 4 needs to fulfill their core desire of individuality by doing things that make them expressive and in touch with themselves. This could be creative expression, a hobby, or spending time in thought.
But the enneagram 4 also needs to embrace both their wings for their self care too. Self care for the enneagram 4s 3 wing means achieving goals and spending time in their mind for their 5 wing.
And to complete their self care practice, an enneagram 4 needs to embrace the heathy traits of their growth numbers.
Stepping into a giving role, helping others, practicing compassion (,embracing the enneagram 2,) and creating more order in their lives (taking on the enneagram 1) is extremely important for the enneagram 4s self care.
Self Care For Enneagram 4s
So without further ado, here’s our enneagram 4 self care guide!
1. Alone Time
To embrace your 5 wing for your self care, enneagram 4, get some alone time. Sit in nature, read a book, just recharge your social battery. You may have not realized how “people-d out” you were.
2. Organize Your Life
In growth, you take on the good traits of a type 1. Embrace this part of you for your self care by structuring your life more. Organize your home, write out your week (don’t forget to schedule in rest), clean out physical and mental clutter.
Don’t forget to download the free enneagram cheatsheets for info on each enneagram type including a self care checklist!
3. Gratitude Journaling
4s in stress can struggle with getting caught up in negative modes of thinking. Start consistently journaling your gratitude to elevate your mood. After all, our thoughts create our reality so the more positive your thinking, the more positive your world will be. (Remember that not all negative emotions are invalid.)
4. Daily Movement
Another practice you’ll want to do is daily movement to move your energy and take care of your physical body. This will help get you out of your head and out of emotional patterns.
5. Dream Day Journal
4s, what would your dream day look like? When would you get up? What are you having for breakfast? Who are you with? What would you do? How do you feel on this dream day? Write this dream day down.
This exercise helps 4s become aware of the subconscious expectations they have on the world and others. While you’re writing, notice if there are simple things you can do to live more in your dream reality. Is there something you are avoiding writing because you believe it’s “unattainable”? Dream big but dream real!
6. Test Your Capabilities
4s struggle with having too much energy trapped in their sacral chakra. The best thing they can do for their growth is get into their solar plexus chakra and test their capabilities. This will provide you a sense of empowerment you didn’t know you were missing out on.
7. Let Toxic People Go
A 4 in stress can feel the need to extend kindness to people who aren’t valuing them for who they are. So for your self care, type 4, cut ties with people who are making you feel undervalued and not enough.
Don’t just detox from unhealthy foods, detox from unhealthy emotions, conversations, habits, anything that doesn’t support your health. Take a break from social media, quit burning yourself out, detox from these things for whatever amount of time you can manage.
As you go about your day, remember to reflect. Not just on your own thoughts and being, but reflect on your reality. Question the way things are, question the things you think and feel, be curious. This simple act of self care keeps you from remaining stuck or distracted.
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10. Be Present
For your self care, see how present you can be in your reality. Notice what’s happening around you and see if you can fall in love with reality as it is. Do things that challenge you to be more present.
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11. Be Creative
Of course, this self care guide for the enneagram 4 wouldn’t be complete without reminding a 4 to be creative. Psst, creativity isn’t always painting and pottery, it can be anything that requires creation.
Meditation can be intimidating but there is no reason to be. It’s the best thing we can do for ourselves! When we sit in silence, we allow any deep rooted problems, emotions, thoughts, and more to come out of hiding to be healed.
13. Practice Neutrality
See how much you can practice feeling your emotions and letting them go, type 4, rather than letting them dictate your day or your actions. This is a huge self growth and self care lesson for 4s! Recognize what you are feeling, notice why you feel that way, and then remain neutral towards yourself and the world.
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14. Set Goals
Embrace your 3 wing, set goals for your self care! These could be career goals, self-growth goals, relationship goals, etc. Just always have a goal.
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And finally, for your self care as an enneagram 4, remember to practice vulnerable self expression with those you trust. Share how you’re feeling and what you are struggling with, express your thoughts.
Enneagram 4 Self Care Products
Now that you have plenty of self care practices you can utilize, here are some self care products you should have as an enneagram 4 that will help you make your self care practice easy.
Enneagram 4, Individualist Journal
Looking for a new journal for your self care practice? Get this Enneagram 4, Individualist blank journal that matches the type 4s vibe! This journal is available as a hardcover and paperback.
Enneagram 4 Candle
I love these candles, especially the name they choose for each candle. Every candle title represents the message that enneagram type longs to hear. Type 4s, you are seen!
Positive Focus Crystals Kit
Type 4s will love this crystal kit that helps you boost your focus and uplift your energy. This kit comes with crystals and more that will help you think positive. It’s a great addition to a self care practice!
30 Day Gratitude Journal
4s in stress can struggle with getting caught up in negative modes of thinking. Start consistently journaling your gratitude with this 30 Day Gratitude Journal from Best Self to elevate your frequency and practice self care!
The Birthdate Book
Dive into the deeper layers of yourself. Get yourself this beautiful, custom book that illustrates your unique astrological birth chart! It has over 70 pages of detailed horoscope analysis, they uncover secrets and insights about your life and personality. Enneagram 4s, you’ll love the beauty and accuracy of this horoscope book!
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Book For Enneagram 4 Self Care
Type 4s need to read the 12 Rules For Life by Jordan Peterson. This book will help 4s add some structure into their life. Jordan Peterson journeys broadly, discussing discipline, freedom, adventure and responsibility, distilling the world’s wisdom into 12 practical and profound rules for life. Perfect for helping 4s embrace their type 1 growth number.
Song For Enneagram 4 Self Care
Listen to Overthinker by INZO for your self care. Let this songs lyrics and melody become the soundtrack to your life and he;p you get out of your thoughts/feelings. As Alan Watts says in the song “A person who thinks all the time has nothing to think about except thoughts. So, he loses touch with reality and lives in a world of illusion”
Reminder For Enneagram 4s
Type 4s, remember that no one is holding a microscope up to you, you are enough! Just enjoy being here fully.
Screenshot this reminder and make it your wallpaper to embody your health as a 4!
Did we miss anything? Comment below, tell us how you practice self care as an enneagram 4!
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